Revenge Fantasies Aren't About Revenge

Dr. Daniel Fox Guide 11 days ago

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After someone hurts you, your mind may replay the perfect confrontation. You imagine them finally understanding your pain, regretting what they did, and losing power over you. This short explains why those revenge fantasies often come from wanting to be seen, not from wanting to be cruel.

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0:00 Revenge Fantasies and Imagined Confrontations
0:04 The Speech You Give in Your Head
0:10 The Moment They Realize What They Lost
0:28 Why It Can Feel Embarrassing
0:34 Revenge Fantasies Are About Reversal
0:40 Finally Seen and Finally Heard