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Father’s Day is not simple for everyone.
This video is about what Father’s Day feels like when your relationship with your dad is complicated, when your dad wasn’t really there when you were younger, and when you’re trying to work out what to say now you’re older.
My dad wasn’t properly in my life when I was young, and for years I carried a lot of anger about that. But later in life, he gave me one piece of parenting advice that changed how I deal with my own children:
A sad kid is easier to deal with than an angry kid.
That advice taught me something about fatherhood, parenting, anger, forgiveness, complicated family relationships, and trying to meet hostility with love instead of just butting heads.
This is not a normal Father’s Day gift video. It’s not about cards, socks, mugs, or last-minute Father’s Day presents. It’s about complicated dads, absent fathers, becoming a dad yourself, healing old anger, and choosing not to pass that hurt on to your own children.
If Father’s Day is hard for you, if you have a difficult relationship with your dad, if your dad wasn’t there, or if you don’t know what to write in a Father’s Day card, I hope this helps.
Sometimes the most honest thing you can say is:
It wasn’t perfect. It did hurt. But this part mattered.
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