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Women hear this all the time: if a man sleeps with you quickly, it means he’s really attracted to you. But attraction and commitment are not the same thing. A man will sleep with a woman he finds attractive—that part is easy. What’s harder, and what actually matters, is his intention before the intimacy. Did he show consistency, care, and follow-through? Did he invest in you without sexual access? That’s where commitment lives. A lot of women confuse sexual attention with relational interest, and that’s when you end up feeling blindsided. Not because you misread the chemistry, but because chemistry doesn’t predict long-term behavior. Men don’t commit because of sex—they commit because they’ve decided you align with their values, their life, and their emotional baseline. Sex might speed up attachment for you, but it doesn’t change his decision-making process. When you know this, you stop mistaking access for intention, and you stop giving intimacy to men who haven’t demonstrated they deserve it.