Description
This is for the singers who long for praise and validation about their singing voice from other people but wince and reject compliments.
I know. It feels like it makes zero sense.
Why does getting what you thought you wanted feel so icky?
Because there are two parts of you who believe different approaches will be the best bet in order to experience love, safety and a sense of belonging.
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On the one hand is the part who tries to contort everything about you into something “likeable” (including your voice and how you look when you perform).
And on the other, is a part who can’t let you get your hopes up because they are trying to protect you from betrayal or disappointment.
These are protective mechanisms who were needed at one point in your life and you get to decide if they’re still required.
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The first step in creating a new experience when it comes to accepting compliments (and letting yourself feel even a morsel of pride for the work you’ve put into developing your voice and your stage presence) is creating a little distance from the thoughts themselves.
When we identify completely with these thoughts, they consume us. These parts are not only loud but they’re in the front seat driving recklessly.
When we can stop and say “I’m having a thought that…” to “A part of me feels this”, we then create some separation from the old stories.
This then allows us to decide how we want to show up differently or what new experience we’d like to work on creating.