Description
Podcaster, TV personality and influencer Abbie Chatfield opens up about the realities of being targeted by death threats and online abuse simply for speaking her mind. How did an ADHD diagnosis change her life? When did she know rock star boyfriend Adam Hyde was the one? And, as someone who so often divides opinion, what does she see as her purpose?
Producer, Interviewer, Editing: Mon Schafter
Editing: Jasmine Rule
Commissioning Editor: Daniel Ahern
00:00 Intro
01:05 What shaped your values?
01:38 The culture shock at 14
02:07 What has speaking out cost you?
02:17 Death threats after The Bachelor
03:01 When her partner became a target
03:11 When online abuse becomes real life
04:00 Political violence and the media coverage
04:35 Calling the eSafety Commissioner and getting security
05:07 "I can't do anything": how headlines make it worse
05:22 Why going to the police doesn't help
05:41 Trapped and scared: "They're just crazy"
06:15 Why "just ignore it" doesn't work
06:29 "Even if I deleted my social media, I think it would still happen"
06:39 The only boundary she can set: not checking her DMs
07:05 What is the manosphere, and how do you respond to it?
07:28 "Men have to dismantle it"
07:45 What advice do you have for young women online?
08:01 Speak up, but at what risk?
08:19 "20 plus women who have received credible death threats"
08:37 How to use the internet more safely
08:51 Her real advice: "put it in the ocean"
09:01 How did you know Adam was the one?
09:16 What was different about her past relationships
09:43 "Emotional calluses"
10:41 Why she'd be okay on her own
11:13 A relationship in public: "It's quite hard to manage"
11:31 Death threats and the relationship
12:15 How did an ADHD diagnosis change your life?
12:32 "The release of shame"
12:49 Shame, relationships and arguments with Adam
13:29 Is ADHD a superpower? "Not really"
13:42 "It's debilitating"
14:01 "Step seven of ten"
14:28 What do you see as your purpose?
14:58 Struggling with her mental health and purpose
15:10 Educating people online
15:30 "Bring information while making people laugh"
15:40 Bridging the gap through reality TV
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