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You're successful by every external measure.
Some part of you is tracking, in real time, how you're coming across.
Confident enough. Smart enough. Polished enough. The hyper-observation never quite turns off. Not in the meeting, not at the dinner, not in the relationship you've been in for two years.
This isn't a personality style. It's a specific pattern, and once you can see it, you can stop running it.
In this video I break down the Performer, one of the four ways your nervous system tries to keep you safe when disapproval is on the table. The Performer is the one most often labeled as ambitious, high-standards, or just driven. It's the most rewarded of the four patterns. It's also the most exhausting.
I'll walk you through what the pattern actually does to your nervous system, why succeeding doesn't quiet it, and the moment in my own life where I couldn't keep performing anymore. Including a panic attack I had on a picnic with a woman who liked me.
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Prefer audio? This episode is also on Authentic Confidence with Dr. Aziz:
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1GMw7KZeOL5RIcQ9b19xqs
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/authentic-confidence-with-dr-aziz/id813814120
Work with me directly:
The Unstoppable Confidence Mastermind is the year-long program for people ready to unwire this pattern at the nervous system level.
https://www.socialconfidencecenter.com/ucmv3
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