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I used to turn every complaint into a courtroom. She'd tell me something hurt her and I'd immediately start building my case. What about this, what about that, don't my feelings matter too. I thought I was defending myself. I was actually just making her feel like honesty wasn't safe with me. This takes practice, and it takes both people developing the skill together. But a relationship where you can both speak and be heard without walls going up, that's worth every uncomfortable conversation it takes to get there.