Description
Someone asks you for something.
The word no forms in your head.
What comes out of your mouth is yes.
It happens at work. With your family. With your partner. With your closest friends. You've been telling yourself for years that you need better boundaries. You've read the books. You've decided this time will be different. The override fires anyway.
In this video I show you why just say no more never quite works.
There's a specific pattern running underneath the guilt and the override, and the standard get better boundaries advice doesn't reach the layer where it lives.
I'll walk you through the Fixer pattern (one of the four ways your nervous system tries to keep you safe when disapproval is on the table), the trap that makes both yes and no feel terrible, a Portland-swallows story from my own life that should have been a no and wasn't, and the saying I share with every client about why recalibration always feels wrong before it feels right.
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Prefer audio? This episode is also on Authentic Confidence with Dr. Aziz:
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1GMw7KZeOL5RIcQ9b19xqs
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/authentic-confidence-with-dr-aziz/id813814120
Work with me directly:
The Unstoppable Confidence Mastermind is the year-long program for people ready to unwire this pattern at the nervous system level.
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