Description
Ever feel like you’re the “parent” in your relationship — managing everything while your partner just... coasts? You’re not alone. And it’s not just you being controlling.
Host Cate Osborn talks with ADHD coach Kristen Carder (host of I Have ADHD, author of the upcoming You’re Not in Trouble) about why ADHD relationships so easily slide into parent-child dynamics, and how to climb back out.
They get into why resentment is the red flag to watch for, and Kristen’s favorite mantra for “de-centering” an overfunctioning partner (“there is no sun — we’re equals here”). Plus eldest daughter syndrome, and why chicken nuggets for dinner is sometimes the healthiest choice you’ll make all day.
Honest, funny, and genuinely useful if you’ve ever wondered whether you’re parenting your partner instead of loving them.
For more on this topic
Listen: Sorry, I Missed This: When ADHD turns chores into conflict https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/adhd-channel/sorry-i-missed-this-adhd-chores-conflict
Watch: ADHD expert answers 8 top questions on romantic relationships https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qBAGVq_tJRE
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